Senin, 10 Februari 2014

Why do we fall in love even when we know it would end

Have you ever wonder what life is about? Have you at some points of your life stop, and think, why do we fall in love....when mostly in the end it's going to hurt us more. I'm not an expert about relationship, I'm not Carrie Bradshaw who wander around with her love story and life story, and I'm not Keisavourie who seems to know what to do and act rational when it comes to love, I'm just me, Bila, who happened to have some thoughts and want to write it all down.

My friend's question also got me thinking, why do we brace ourselves to ever fall in love and entering a relationship, when back then we may have made several failures. And we got hurt, and we also hurt someone. Some persons maybe.

Well, falling in love is not something we could really choose because most of the times it just happened. But being close, getting open up, starting and getting in to a relationship is a choice that we made. You see, as time goes by, we become someone more mature (well it depends on the person, but we can't avoid the fact as we grow up we have more responsibilities), we make bigger choice in life.

One may think that choosing to be in a relationship is not a big choice, but just think, when you are getting older and mature and arranging your life ahead you, choosing to be in a relationship and choosing the person you want to build a relationship with, is almost the same as choosing which major you want to study in a university, make the wrong choice and honey you'll be miserable. When you're at the age to make a commitment, playing is not an option anymore. Heck, do you want to keep playing or do you want to win?

If you want to win, then it's time to settle down and be with someone. Commitment doesn't mean that you will never get bored with the other person, commitment means YOU WILL STILL BE WITH YOUR COUPLE EVEN WHEN YOU DON'T WANT TO

It's up to us how to maintain our relationship, and what we should do when we're in a relationship, is trying our best to keep it last, showing our commitment, so one day we don't have to say "I wish I tried my best" 

So I guess why do we fall in love even when we know it would end is also the same reason why do we LIVE when we know we'll DIE someday.

We live and we love because it gives us courage, motivation, and something to push us to do our best. To be the best of ourselves when we still have time :) 

Selasa, 28 Januari 2014


Everyone, dead or alive, has their past. And what are we actually talking here? What's past actually? One of the definition in the dictionary said that past is someone previous history.
Like it or not, most people judge us by our past. By what we have done in the past, not what we are in present. Many people misunderstood us by something we had done and regret in the past. And that's people. Society. We only could tolerate that and live day by day trying to prove they're wrong.

The question is, is some one's past really that important as a judgement? We can't avoid that our past made who we are now, but not everyone is their past now. We live in the present, and if you judge someone only by his/her past then it'll only means you're the one who still live in the past.

Not to be naive, I did make stupid decisions, stupid actions, said stupid words and what I did did hurt someone, but what's past is past. I don't live there anymore, well I'm proud to say, cause of what I did, I could see clearer now, and know what's best for my self.

“Everyone has a past, but that's just it--it's in the past. You can learn from it, but you can't change it.”-Nicholas Spark

 And that's what I think about my past. Something I need to learn, my past is my lesson, and if i wasn't so reckless back then, I wouldn't be where I am now. I wouldn't be someone who thinks like now. I'd still be someone who freaking just live the moment.
One of my best friends slap me in the face by saying:
 "We're grown ups now. We couldn't just do something without thinking what will it affects to us in the future"-Diandra Alika
Well back to the first question, what I could say don't freaking judge someone just by what he/she done in the past.

"Every Saint has a past, and Every Sinner has a future"- Oscar Wilde

Not everyone you think is a saint never did something wrong in their life. And all the sinner still has a future. God, it's not that I'm saying the past it's not important. Just a life thought, I came to a conclusion where what I see is, yes the past can tells you a lot about a person, yes the past could affect on the person now, but judging someone just by his/her past is not right.

Honey, there's more to everyone than just their past. And in loving someone, go be with someone who doesn't judge you for your past, love you for what you are now and going to make you a better person in the future.